Morning Routine-Why You Need One!

Why You Need A Morning Routine

Morning Routine

Create A Great Morning Routine, and Change Your World!

You need a morning routine because it will make you more productive! Having a productive morning routine starts the day off right, and puts positivity in motion!

Morning routines set the tone for the day. A great life starts with a whole bunch of great days!

My personal morning routine consists of:

Wake Up Before The Sun Shines

This one I struggle with.

What I want for myself is to be a morning person! I am far more productive when I start and end my day early. The key here is consistency! Set yourself up for success and have a regular bedtime seven days a week!

Creating a consistent sleep schedule will reduce sleepiness throughout the day.

Exercise

Wake up your body and mind by moving your body and changing your surroundings. Exercise will stimulate the body and jumpstart your day.

My boyfriend and I go to the gym for our exercise. This usually consists of some amount of cardio, weight lifting, and ten minutes in the steam room.

To keep things interesting, I schedule a different exercise for every day. Scheduling and planning is incredibly important to me, and this way, I have something different every day to look forward to.

  • Monday is arm day.
  • Tuesday is cardio.
  • Wednesday is core day.
  • Thursday is cardio.
  • Friday is leg day.
  • Saturday and Sunday are for some sort of fun exercise. Weekends usually consist of basketball, volleyball, or some other form of cardio.

Shower

Of course! We don’t want to be stinky!

Dress For Success

You know the phrase, “You look good, you feel good.” Well, it’s true.

Depending on your occupation and the day, your attire will change. Be the best judge for yourself. When you wear clothing that makes you feel good, you will portray that to the world.

Although pajamas are comfortable, (even if you work from home) wear something that you wouldn’t be embarrassed being seen in.

Wearing something deliberate will put you in the right mindset for what your day holds.

Skin Care

It’s time to prep your skin for the day! Slather on some moisturizer and SPF to protect from the sun.

Now I keep this step simple. Face moisturizer and little to no makeup. When I’m feeling fancy, I’ll put a little powder foundation on, mascara, and brush out my brows.

Like I said, I like to keep things simple. Because who has the time or motivation to spend four hours getting ready everyday? Definitely not me.

I used to spend hours getting ready in the morning, but as I’ve grown and matured, I’ve preferred a more natural face. (More on this later).

Hair Care

Again, simple! Yay! I have made this as easy as I can make it for myself.

I wash my hair with sulfate free shampoo three days a week. After my hair is washed, I spray in leave in moisturizer, brush it, let it air dry, and do something to pull the hair away from my face.

On the days I don’t wash, I spritz dry shampoo on my roots, and pull my hair out of my face.

Now wasn’t that easy? My younger self would not have survived this way, but over the last few years I’ve taken good care of my hair and skin.

I use heat on my hair maybe once a month.

Whaaaaaaat? How is that possible?

Well, I make due because I care more about the health of my hair, than the way it’s styled. Don’t get me wrong, it has taken me a long time to master this skill.

(Healthy hair post to come!)

Take Care Of The Pup

Feed, water and take the pup outside, because her health is just as important as mine.

Help Prepare The Boyfriend For The Day

I prepare his lunch, and coffee for him while he’s getting ready for his day.

We as a couple do everything as a team. So yes, this includes the little mundane daily tasks too!

I have the liberty to do this because I make my own schedule, and I start my work day once everyone else is taken care of. This benefits everyone, and keeps this busy household running smoothly!

Now is when I start my tasks for the day.

Fuel The Body

First I drink the coffee, then I do the things.

I start by making myself a delicious cup of coffee (because I don’t think I can survive without it).

Breakfast time!

Then I make myself a big bowl of cereal. I love cereal, so this is exciting everyday, haha! My favorite is Rice Crispies, what’s yours? 😉

Make My Bed

Because… “If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.” – Naval Admiral McRaven addressing the University of Texas, Austin, Class of 2014.

This was only one lesson from his speech, but I particularly like this one. Changing the world, changing your world, and making a difference, starts with little everyday tasks.

Little actions turn into big changes, and it all starts with making your bed!

Haha, but really, this is still pretty true.

Making your bed not only jumpstarts the productivity for the day, but it also communicates that it’s time to carpe the hell out of this diem.

Create a morning routine to promote productivity that will last all day.

Prep My Work Station

Now it’s time to really get to business. I set out my supplies for the day and get started. It sets the framework for what is expected of me that day.

There is no time to waste when you’re a full-time painter, and blogger! I am a business woman, and I take full advantage of my strengths and opportunity!

Review Daily, Weekly, and Monthly Goals.

I keep a planner, and boy does this set the day off to a great start! I love staying organized, and it really keeps me on track! I also bought one of those really beautiful, helpful, inspirational planners. This has made a world of difference!

I bought this one from Michaels, and I couldn’t be happier with it.

This planner is customizable, pretty, and fun to use. My favorite part about it is that they have pages for monthly goals. This really keeps me on track and motivated for every day!

Begin The Grind!

 

What does your morning routine look like?

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What To Do When You’re Having A Bad Day-7 Tactics

How To Tackle Down A Bad Day – 7 Tactics!

A Bad Day

What do you do when you have a bad day?

Wallow in self pity!

No, no, no… We take action! Take action instead and get yourself out of your funk quicker!

I’m going to give you tools to help you through a bad day. We’ve all been there. Whether we actually have something bad happen to us, or we just feel sad for no particular reason.

Bad days are tough already, and I often see people making them worse for themselves.

Sometimes this is me. Like the other day, I had a hard emotional day. I’m not entirely sure why, but I had a difficult day. I was sleepy, lethargic, sad, and my body was sore. You know those days where you just want to curl up in a ball and shut out the world?

That was me.

I had no motivation to work, and no interest in doing things that I know would make me feel better. All day I couldn’t shake this feeling. When my boyfriend came home, I cried in his arms until I felt better. Occasionally, this is what happens to me. This is part of my depression, and I deal with it. I’m also very lucky that I have the most wonderful man that always helps me with this. It’s not easy for anyone, but it’s okay.

Sadness that seems to come from nowhere; I like to think of it as a feeling that another me is feeling. Me from the past, future, or another life is struggling with something difficult and our sole feels it. We share a connection, and I’m helping carry the burden temporarily.

I acknowledge it, talk about it, let it go, and say my three good things.

So what do we do to tackle that funk?

1. Acknowledge that you’re having a rough time.

When you’re having a bad day, acknowledge where the feeling is coming from. Don’t ignore the issues your body and mind are trying to tell you about.

When your body needs nutrients, you feel hungry. If your body needs hydration, you feel thirsty.

The same goes for your mind, but it is not so obvious.

When you feel sad, there is a reason for it. I suggest listening to your mind and giving it what it needs.

2. Take care of your body’s needs. 

Make sure that your bad day isn’t because of a deficiency in food, water, exercise, or medication.

These all contribute to how you’re feeling, so cover the basic needs first!

So drink a glass of water, feed yourself something healthy and delicious, and take your daily vitamin and/or medication where applicable.

I personally like to start with a nice cup of tea or coffee, and go from there.

3. Tell a loved one about it.

Tell a loved one that you’re having a bad day. They are more than likely willing to help, if not happy to help! The people that you surround yourself with care about you, and want to make sure you’re feeling your best.

If they cannot help the situation, the least they can be is a listening ear.

Don’t be afraid to tell people about how you’re feeling.

Now, you also should use your best judgment about the people you’re sharing with. Not everyone in your life is worthy of knowing these feelings. Tell people you trust with your feelings, and will care for you.

4. Meditate.

Meditation can be very helpful in calming the mind, and calming the body.

To recenter yourself and reset your bad day, take a few minutes to focus on your breathing. If you are not familiar with meditation, there are many helpful YouTube videos that will talk you through the process.

I subscribed to mindbodygreen.com, and after subscribing, they sent me a great meditation video to follow along with!

I suggest trying this one out!

They also have an amazing blog about health, wellness, and living greener! I love this blog, so check this one out!

5. Get moving.

“Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.” -Elle Woods from Legally Blonde

 

This quote is slightly off topic, but it relates. Endorphins really do make you happy. It’s an easy and cheap way to boost your mood, and motivate yourself.

Find something you’re good at, or something that you’re interested in! Don’t just head to the treadmill because your friend loves it! If that sounds like torture, it might be!

There is an endless list of activities you can do to get moving, but here are my favorites!

  • Run/Jog/Walk
  • Get outside and hike somewhere
  • Hit up a Yoga studio (or YouTube it, and hold a session in your living room)
  • Play sports or join a league with friends
  • Weightlift! Because it’s fun!
  • Try something new! Maybe a kickboxing class, or a cycling class?

6. Say your three good things.

Say your three good things! For those of you who don’t know, this is magic!

For an in depth description, read my blog post, How To Boost Happiness In One Simple Step.

When you’re having a bad day, tell yourself three things that went your way today. These things can be as simple as eating a healthy meal, or walking the dog. Or maybe you didn’t hit traffic on the way to work, or you talked to your best friend.

Three things that happened in your life today that went your way or made a positive impact.

This works because it reminds you that you have great things going on in your life, even when the world seems like it’s against you.

This works for me! Try it out!

7. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow.

Know that even if you didn’t accomplish what you wanted, know that you tried your best.

There is no use in beating yourself up over it. This only makes it worse and prolongs the pain!

Make a game plan for tomorrow, and wake up refreshed and ready to tackle down tomorrow! There is absolutely no shame in taking a break and trying again tomorrow.

What you need to take away from today:

  • Acknowledge your feelings
  • Talk it out
  • Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow

What do you do to make yourself feel better?

Do you know anyone who could use these tips? Share it with them!

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Reconnecting With My Long Lost Mom and What I Learned

What I Learned From Reconnecting With My Long Lost Mom

Reconnecting With My Mom After 2 Decades

Reconnecting With My Long Lost Mom

 

The most amazing thing happened to me recently!

Let me give you a little bit of background so the situation makes more sense.

Like a lot of people, I have four parents. My birth parents never married. My birth mom married my step-dad, which I just call Dad. He’s been my dad for 20-something years, so you understand! My birth father married a woman with a daughter a few years older than me. When I was very small, I would occasionally visit my birth father and his new family. Those two divorced a few years later, and since then, I haven’t seen or heard from my second mom.

Until a few months ago…

The Spark

The most amazing thing happened! My second mom came in contact with one of the oldest family friends I have. One of my best friend’s sisters (who looks almost exactly like me) ran into her while at work.

Mind you, this is in an entirely different state.

My second mom saw her, and got a strange nostalgic feeling. She immediately thought of me, and thought that maybe this is what I would look like all grown. Funny right? She was brave and went to talk to her.

“I know this is out of nowhere, but would you happen to know someone named Jordan McLean?”

“Oh my god! Yes I do! She’s actually my little sister’s friend! My sister just moved in with her!”

Small world right? (Still blowing my mind)

And the rest is history.

Just kidding, but long story short, I contacted her after being given her information, and we’ve been talking ever since!

Feeling Cautious About Reconnecting

For those of you who don’t know me personally, I have not been able to foster a good relationship with my birth mother. Therefore, this whole situation BLEW MY MIND, and completely caught me off guard! I was honestly terrified. Having a relationship with a mother will be something completely new to me.

I had forgotten about that part of my life, but I am so glad the universe reconnected us.

With much hesitation, I texted her after a few weeks of contemplation.

She replied with such enthusiasm! We talked periodically and a few months later, we scheduled our first Face Time date for last Thursday!

The first time we talked on the phone, the conversation lasted over an hour. She was kind, and interested in what I have been up to lately. I asked her tons of questions, and learned a lot about this new person in my life. I also learned my used-to-be-step-sister was a professional fighter, and now owns her own gym! How amazing all this was! I couldn’t believe what I was hearing!

She also wanted to apologize for not being there for me after all these years.

Apologize?!

I cried.

While she was doing the best thing for herself and her daughter, she was also leaving me in a not-so-savory situation.

That was exactly what I would have wanted her to do. Never would I want someone to sacrifice his or her own happiness and safety for me. I had my step-dad (Dad). Let’s call him my dad from here on out. He protected me and loved me for as long as I can remember.

And I am eternally grateful for that relationship. Seriously, he’s the best thing that ever happened to me.

But on to the good stuff! ☺

Face Time Date

When we Face Timed for the first time, I was nervous so I prepped for it, wrote down questions I would ask, put makeup on, and did my hair. I found the best lighting and space in my room to Face Time. It’s like I was going on a blind date. It was nerve-wracking!

It sounds silly now, thinking back to that time, but I’m just an anxious person. Reconnecting with someone you haven’t seen in 2 decades is an interesting experience.

I mean, who wouldn’t feel a little nervous talking to someone after two decades?

Let’s put this in perspective.

She had not seen or talked to me since I was beginning to speak. Now I’m a full-fledged adult woman with a degree! The change she experienced with me was astronomical!

Our Face Time lasted over an hour. We talked about our careers, our hobbies, and new news in each other’s lives. I thoroughly enjoyed the conversation, and we left it excited to finally know each other!

Cherishing Relationships

Phew! Wasn’t that amazing? The universe brought us together, and I believe that this was meant to be. I feel so incredibly loved, and I am so grateful.

Before diving in headfirst and trusting this new woman in my life, I was confused and upset.

Let me explain. I was confused because I couldn’t think of a good reason for her to contact me. After I began to trust her, I was upset that it happened so late. I was upset because I wanted more. More love, more relationships, and more family.

Better late than never, right? I cherish what we have, and I always will. I am so lucky to have another woman in my life that supports me. Relationships, real genuine, healthy relationships are something to be treasured. They do not occur around every corner, and because of this, I latch onto great people.

More good news! What! How could this story get better?

Then! Another fantastic thing happened! She really showed me that she supports me, and my crazy new adventure!

For those of you who don’t know, after I graduated I decided to become my own boss, and sell my paintings full-time. (More on this later).

Today I received a package from Amazon that I wasn’t expecting.

My second mom sent me a package of art supplies! Oil paints, high quality brushes, oil paint medium, and a set of sparkly watercolor paints! I started freaking out and began to cry. This was such a thoughtful and generous gesture.

This means so much more to me than a surprise gift.

This gift is a gesture that says, “I believe in you, I support you, and your dreams matter to me.”

This tells me that she truly cares for me, and what I’m aspiring to be. It’s not just a gift. It means so much more than that to me.

Reconnecting with her means everything to me.

What to take away from my story

  • Expect the unexpected.
  • Have an open mind.
  • Do what is safe for you.
  • Go out on a limb once in a while!
  • Recognize when you have something wonderful in front of you.
  • Forgive people, you might be surprised!

Your time to share!

Have any of you had a similar story?

Do any of you have that one person in your life that you’re just SO GRATEFUL FOR?

Share your stories with me in the comment section! I would love to hear about it!

Confidence-How To Build Confidence Like A Pro

10 Ways To Build Confidence

Confidence! How To Build Confidence Like A Pro!

How to build your confidence in 10 steps!

Notice I didn’t say “in 10 EASY steps”,  because it’s not easy, and it takes constant work. That’s okay though! You know why? Because these steps will give you long lasting confidence, unlike pretending to be someone you’re not and altering your body. Changing your body every time beauty standards change is expensive, dangerous, and reinforcing false beliefs about beauty.

You know what’s really beautiful? You and your natural self. Rock it, and don’t be afraid!

This brings me to my first step to confidence…

1. Stop comparing yourself to others by letting go of societal beauty standards

I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH! Wow! This is a really tough one! Everyone is bombarded with constant expectations of beauty. The internet, news, social media, billboards, television, advertisements, and everything else…tells you what to look like. They tell you that if you don’t fit this description, then you’re not beautiful. THIS IS A BIG FAT LIE.

In turn, the emphasis on physical beauty makes us believe that beauty is what’s most important about ourselves. Let me tell you, you have so much more to you, than what you look like.

Are you a mother, or father? Maybe a sibling or cousin? Do you have a career and hobbies? What do you do to inspire others, or teach them? What have you created lately?

You don’t have to be fit, thin, muscular, tall, tan, or a damn supermodel to be beautiful. You are beautiful just the way you are. LET ME REPEAT.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, DAMMIT!

And I’m not going to lie to you, I have always struggled with this. I always wanted to be skinnier, taller, and tanner, a thinner nose, bigger lips, longer hair, and bigger curves.

Admitting this is difficult but I wanted a thinner nose so bad when I was younger that I started planning my plastic surgery appointment for when I graduated high school.

How sad! How sad that I hated my nose so much that I wanted to cut part of it off! The insanity! That poor child. I’m so glad I don’t feel that way anymore.

It’s difficult to live in a world where we’re constantly told we’re not good enough. I’m here to tell you that you are beautiful, and have compassion for yourself.

2. Think positively

Practice makes perfect! Leave out the negative self talk. If you find yourself ridiculing yourself, STOP! Change that negative into a positive.

Instead of saying, “I ate like a pig today”, say something more forgiving like, “I ate some bomb ass foods today, and it was delicious!”

Change this, “Gosh I wish I was skinny like her”, to this, “That woman over there is beautiful, and so am I.”

Instead of saying, “If I don’t make (x) amount of money this year, I’m worthless”, say this “I worked hard for everything I’ve earned this year, and I will continue to do my best.”

Like I said, it takes practice to rewire those negatives into positives, but it will change your life. Also, don’t be too hard on yourself. We all slip up sometimes. When you find yourself thinking bad thoughts, acknowledge it, let it go, change it into a positive. Change is often uncomfortable and needs constant reminders.

3. Learn confident body language

Describe yourself as you walk into a room full of strangers. Are you quiet and reserved? Do you stand in the back of the room? Do you hide next to your friends the whole time?

Now imagine what you would look like if you walked in there like you owned that place. You’re probably standing tall, head high, smiling, and going somewhere with a purpose. You grab yourself a drink, and go make conversation!

Ahhh yes. That sounds better doesn’t it?

Stand tall with your shoulders back.

Put your head up high and smile.

Relax your arms and try not to fidget.

Give people eye contact, and not for like, 1 millionth of a second. Give this a try! Learn the eye color of everyone you meet. This allows enough time to show that you’re confident, but not being a creeper at the same time.

Remember people’s names when they tell you. Repeat it back to them. This shows them that you’re listening and attentive. Also, this will make conversation a lot less awkward the next time you meet.

4. Compliment yourself

Go stand in front of the mirror, and tell yourself that you’re beautiful. Tell yourself all the great things about yourself. It may seem silly now, but trust me, it gets better. Mention how awesome your hair looks today, or how cute your smile is.

If you can’t think of anything, no worries! Remind yourself of the compliments you’ve received in the past. Talk to yourself like your best friend or loved one would describe you. You are always your toughest critic, so be forgiving.

5. Pull yourself together

Take a shower, put on your favorite clothes, slap on some lipstick (if you’re into that sort of thing) and present yourself with care and respect.

Maybe this is just me, but I don’t feel too terribly confident when I first wake up in the morning. Why? Like most people, I smell bad and I look like a hot mess.

This is what I do. I get ready every day, with the mindset that I’m ready to open the door when an unexpected guest stops by.  This means I take a shower, wash my face, brush my hair, brush my teeth, and put some acceptable clothes on. Heels and a dress? Heck no. Work out clothes? Absolutely. My favorite polar bear pajama pants? I don’t think so.

Just enough to make yourself feel good.

6. Give yourself a pep talk in the mirror

Today’s the day! You’re giving a presentation in class, taking an exam, negotiating a raise with your boss, or meeting a date at the coffee shop. What do you do?

Be your own cheerleader! GO TEAM ME! 🙂

Get in front of your mirror, do a power stance for a few minutes, and give yourself a pep talk!

Tell yourself all the reasons you’re going to perform your best. Tell yourself that you deserve the good things coming your way, and there’s no reason to be scared. Bounce around and be goofy with it! This is intended to force out the nerves, and give yourself a confidence boost!

7. Set personal goals and go get them

What do you want out of today, the week, the month, and the year?

Health goals? Career goals? House cleaning goals? Hobby goals? Relationship goals? DIY projects goals? The number of dogs you need goal?

Write these down. Take the necessary steps to get you there. Check in with your progress every day, and reward yourself for being an awesome human being!

You will feel amazing once you’ve set goals and accomplished them. This will help you build confidence in yourself and your abilities.

8. Accept that you make mistakes and forgive yourself

If you don’t transform into the most amazingly confident person by tomorrow, that’s  okay! I can’t speak for everyone, but I believe building confidence is an ongoing task. We are always learning new things, and progressing in our activities.

We are all human, and we all make mistakes. Embrace this and learn from it. Don’t let minor setbacks knock you down.

9. Do what makes you happy and be true to yourself

You are an individual. You are a combination of unique and interesting traits. No one else is better at being you, than you! So don’t fall into the crowd, and do what everyone else is doing. Find your passion and pursue it. Be brave and be yourself.

Pretending to be someone else will only make you unhappy and uncomfortable. Pretending to be someone else is not the truth. The truth is something you can speak confidently of, and be confident with.

10. Fake it till you make it

Yikes! Did I just say that? Hear me out.

A few seconds of bravery can take you farther than you expected. If all else fails, and you just can’t find confidence, do this…

Practice confidence (even when you don’t have it), and build actual confidence.

My true and tried example:

I walked to the front of my classroom and began my presentation. Even though I wasn’t feeling confident…I stood up there, spoke loudly, smiled, walked around, and radiated confidence.

A few seconds of forcing myself to be confident paid off, and allowed me to rock that presentation.

The more you practice, the more you’ll believe it.

So get out there and share with the world how amazing you are!

Major Take Aways From Today:

  • Do not, I repeat DO NOT compare yourself to others.
  • Change your negatives into positives.
  • Forgive yourself for not being perfect, none of us are.

 

What are some things you do to feel confident?

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Depression-14 Ways To Combat Depression

14 Ways To Combat Depression

14 Ways To Combat Depression

We’re about to get real here.

I open up in hopes that this will benefit someone out there reading this.

Keep reading to learn 14 ways I have helped myself reduce my own depression.

First, I would like to say that I am not a mental health professional.

Second, this post will include all the tips and tricks that has helped me with my own depression.

Third, I want you to take what you like from this post, tweak what you need to, and listen to yourself and your own needs. Not everything listed will help everyone. We are all unique individuals who require individual care.

For me, this has been an ongoing, dark, cyclical battle. I have worked my ass off to be where I am today.

All the challenges and obstacles we face throughout our life make us better equipped for our next struggle. You don’t just wake up one day, happy and healed forever.

Helping yourself with your depression is an every day task and routine. It takes work, and it’s often uncomfortable. Do it when you don’t feel like it, and when you do. Every effort will bring about progress.

I will tell you this though, it is so worth it. It’s worth it to take action and help yourself. I probably would have scoffed at that comment as my young self. I hope though, that I would have taken it to heart and really understood what it meant.

There is such a thing as being happy.

This is how I helped myself get there.

14 Ways To Combat Depression, From Personal Experience!

1. Educate yourself

Learn what you can about depression. Know what it is, and understand the symptoms. Educate yourself on causes of depression, and treatments. Read blogs. HI! 🙂 I’m delighted you’re here!

Know what your resources are and where to find them. Take advantage of your resources. We live in an amazing time where all the information in the world is at our fingertips.

2. Listen to yourself, and really get to know yourself.

Find out why you have depression. Is it something in your life that’s really bringing you down? Do you have a neurological issue? Does depression run in your family? Maybe it’s a combination of a few or all of these examples.

Knowing where your depression is coming from is an important part of helping yourself feel better. Tackle it at the source!

3. Create a routine

With depression, it is often times difficult to stay focused or to stay on task. Maintain a healthy balance in your day with everything that your body needs.

Wake up at the same time every day. Exercise. Eat a healthy breakfast. (Insert coffee here) Smile at yourself in the mirror. Get dressed for the day.

Carpe the hell out that diem, and repeat. Whatever makes you feel accomplished, do that.

I personally love to spend time writing daily tasks and goals in a planner, checking them off, and planning for weeks ahead. It makes me feel organized, and I can see myself accomplishing what I need to every day.

4. Take care of your body

This might be the most important step. A healthy and happy mind needs a healthy and happy body. Denying your body what it needs makes everything so much harder.

Do this one for me please? Sleep enough. Take your vitamins and medication if you need it. Drink lots of water. Eat healthy food. Eat enough. Treat yourself sometimes. I prefer tiramisu and a cappuccino. Be active, and make sure it’s something you enjoy. I personally love yoga and going to the gym.

Bare minimum…give your body what it needs. I know this is hard sometimes, but I promise it’s worth the effort. When you’re having one of those “I cannot get out of bed” days, force yourself up and do the bare minimum.

5. Forgive yourself

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Recognize that you have made it this far, and congratulate yourself for it!

I got out of bed today? Damn straight I did! I didn’t forget my medication today? Go me! I went to work, and actually enjoyed myself? Heck yes I did!

When you make a mistake, apologize quickly, and forgive yourself quickly. Think about how hard you are on yourself. Would you ever be that hard on your best friend? I didn’t think so.

You are going to make mistakes. This is part of life. Keep swimming. Allow yourself to make mistakes, and then learn from them. Take three steps forward, and five back.

That’s okay, as long as you keep moving forward. Forgive yourself, and pat yourself on the back for not giving up. Try again tomorrow if you need to. It’s okay.

6. Stop the negative self talk!

This is the hardest one for me, and this is something I work on every day. Don’t talk to yourself in a way you wouldn’t talk to your best friend.

This keeps coming up, and I’m repeating myself because it’s important. Don’t talk to yourself in a way you wouldn’t talk to your best friend! You wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who talked to you that way.

Consider this. The relationship you have with yourself, is the longest one you will ever have. Make that relationship a healthy one.

When you find yourself talking negatively to yourself…stop, and change it into a positive.

Example: “Gosh! I’m so lazy, I took a nap today after sleeping in. Then I ate like crap. I’m so fat.” Sheesh! That was harsh! Change that into this…

“Gosh! I had the most amazing nap! I slept a ton today, my body must’ve needed it. Then I treated myself to my favorite dessert, because I deserve it. I’m an adult and I do what I want! 🙂

So much better right? Try it out next time you hear those bad vibes creeping up.

7. Maintain a gratitude journal

This one’s easy. Write down everything you’re grateful for. Then add the new things for every day. For added oomph, check out my other blog post!

8. Remove yourself from negative people in your life

This is really difficult sometimes, but it’s worth the pain. It hurts for a while, you miss them, and eventually you realize you’re better off without them.

You know that person in your life that loves to complain about everything? Ditch them because they bring you down.

9. Surround yourself with understanding uplifting people

You slowly pick up habits from the people around you, so you might as well make those positive habits!

You know that happy person in your life that is in love with life? Latch onto them and learn their secrets!

10. Learn to say no

If you don’t want to do something, don’t make yourself miserable to appease others. Don’t constantly make yourself uncomfortable if it’s ripping out all your energy.

It’s okay to refuse invites sometimes. Sometimes I love to just stay home, eat dessert, cuddle my dog, and watch scary movies with my boyfriend. It’s fantastic.

11. Do what makes you happy, and make it a priority

I know this is a tough one, but if you can, find a career that makes you happy. Make time for friends if you enjoy that. Make time for the outdoors if that helps you recharge. Spend time doing that hobby that you love. Make your happy a priority.

I personally like to go hiking, and spend time cuddling my dog.

12. Keep yourself busy

This one can be dangerous if you don’t do it right.

Keep yourself busy so you have less time to be inside your head.

Don’t be so busy that you overwhelm yourself and lose sleep. Once I started doing this, I took it too far. Moderation is key here people!

13. Love yourself like you love your best friend

Imagine the things you say to yourself on a daily basis. Explain what you do for a living, what you look like, and how you feel about yourself.

Now pretend to say that to your best friend.

How nice are you to yourself? Would you ever put your friend down the way you put yourself down? Hell no, because they deserve better and we love them. Be your own best friend and love yourself because you deserve it.

14. Understand change takes time, and constant work

If you have been thinking a certain way your entire life, don’t expect one blog post to heal you forever and fix your problems.

I’m giving you some hard love right now. If you need to retrain your mind to think of yourself differently, or speak to yourself differently…it’s going to take time.

Make the effort every day, and you will see results.

You can change your life if you put in the effort.

I promise you it’s worth it.

Three major take aways from today:

  • Love yourself by taking care of your body and mind.
  • Forgive yourself, and embrace change.
  • If you put in the effort, you will make positive changes in your life.

Was any of this helpful for you?

What are some things you’ve done for yourself?

If this post helped you, or if you think it might help another, share it, and share it with them!

Happiness-Boost With 1 Simple Step

Boost Your Happiness

Boost Your Happiness With 1 Simple Step!

Looking for something to improve your life? Searching for the solution to your happiness?

Guess what?

You already have it.

Yeah, it’s right there… Inside of you, and it always has been. Cool, right? Sometimes we just need a reminder of where to find it.

Sometimes we need a little boost of happiness to really make a great day. Let me show you how I boost my happiness.

Do this simple thing every day, just once a day, and I promise you things will change.

But Jordan, how?

Okay here we go!

The SECRET SIMPLE STEP TO HAPPINESS…Shhh…

Just kidding, I want you to share this with everyone.

Gratitude!

Well damn, we’ve heard that before. Yawn.

No seriously, keep reading and I’ll share. This is what I do, and I’m happier because of it.

How To Boost Your Happiness (1 amazing step)

1. Name three good things that happened today, and share this with a loved one.

There is one rule: You cannot repeat anything that has been said already!

This gets fun when you’ve spent the whole day with someone!

BOOM. DONE. Keep reading.

I’ll elaborate. Recall three things that went well today. On great days, this is easy! On horrible days, it’s tough, but even on the bad days, you have something to be grateful for. This may be as simple as being grateful that you got out of bed today. Because you know what? That’s hard sometimes, and good for you, for getting out of bed!

Here are some examples.

Maybe you just received a promotion, or a baby was born.

Perhaps you got brunch at your favorite place today, and it was beyond delicious.

Maybe you got to spend time with your friend, and laughed…a lot.

Did you hit zero traffic on your way to work! Heck yes!

And maybe it’s as simple as waking up to your loved one, or your adorable fur baby.

I’ll write my three good things so it’s easier to picture in your mind.

My actual example today as I’m writing this.

1. I slept in today, because my body needed more rest, and it was amazing.

2. I do what I love, and I love what I do. Writing this post is really inspiring me and I hope you try this.

3. My adorable dog is sleeping on her back next to me with her feet in the air, dreaming.

Seems simple right? Well this works for a few reasons.

Why this works

  • You recall three things that made you happy, or went your way. This forces you to think of the great things that happened throughout the day. Reminding yourself of the good things will bring about good thoughts and feelings.
  • Saying this out loud with someone, and sharing that with them reinforces good thoughts. This is a positive bonding experience, and costs zero dollars. Extra points if you can make them do the same!
  • As mentioned before, every day has something good to be thankful for, even the bad days.
  • After this becomes habit for you, you will be searching for good things throughout the day to share with someone. You start seeing the good in the day, rather than letting the bad ruin your day.

My own testimony

I love doing this every night with my boyfriend. We both share, and it really lifts our spirits. This also starts great conversation about the positive things that happened that day. This is a good time to shower compliments and appreciation too! We do this at night before we go to sleep, and we end the day on a great note.

SUPER IMPORTANT NOTE: It’s crucial to do this on the bad days! It may seem hard to recall things that went your way, but I promise, it will help the day seem better. I often find myself laughing and finding the humor in things that didn’t go my way. Added bonus!

My best friend’s experience

I told this to my best friend once, and guess what?! My best friend does this too! Her and her boyfriend have a great routine, and it caught me by surprise! While visiting them last year, we sat down for dinner and it began. Every night they make dinner together. Before the eating begins, they share with the table their three good things. Then they dive into their delicious meal!

I almost cried because I was so happy that my simple little technique really improved their lives.

They told me that it helps them look for the good in every day. They also said that it really does help them feel happier.

So there you go!

One simple step to happiness!

Now wasn’t that worth reading?

It has completely changed my life, and I continue to do it to this day.

What to take away from today:

  • You always have something to be grateful for.
  • If you look for the good, you will find it.
  • So get out of your own way, and find happiness every day!

What are your three good things?

Share them with me!

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3 Reasons Why You Should Give A Damn About Your Mental Health

Mental Health

3 Reasons You Should Give A Damn About Your Mental Health

Mental health is important? We don’t just have to work out and eat right to be healthy?

You should give a damn because mental illness is really common!

1 in 5 adults in the United States have a mental illness of some sort. That’s over 43 million people!

Think about your five closest friends, or your five closest family members. One of them is bound to have some form of mental illness.

We care don’t we, and we have compassion for these people.

These people need a little love and attention. So why don’t we give them some?

Would you agree that we should do something about this?

I don’t know about you, but I believe this should be a higher priority than it is currently.

Consider these two situations:

1. When someone breaks their arm, we run to them with doctors and bandages!

2. When someone discloses that they have a mental disorder, we run away. Or maybe we ask a ton of personal questions out of our own curiosity. That’s not okay either, and it’s actually none of our business.

So if something so prevalent is raiding the streets of America, why don’t we do something about it?

Why are people so scared of what they don’t understand?

You should give a damn about mental health because it’s part of who you are!

People often forget that the mind is a huge part of who you are. Physical health is incredibly important, but it’s no more important than mental health. The two influence each other. Your body has the ability to change your mind, and your mind has the ability to change your body.

Haven’t you heard of those psychological studies where doctors convince patients that they had broken their arm when they were young?

I don’t have the study cited, but what I learned from it is pretty interesting.

Basically, these people never broke their arm, but they would eventually tell stories of breaking their arm, or feeling pain in said area because of the break. In other words, if you tell yourself something enough times, you’ll start believing it.

Have you ever encountered this situation? I have. Sometimes it’s not so humorous.

This is only one small example of how incredibly persuasive your mind can be. So what do we do with this information? We train our minds to work for us, and not against us.

Think happy thoughts 🙂

Being proactive about mental health could prevent larger issues.

Physical Health Holding Hands With Mental Health

Think about how you visit the doctor once a year. We do this because we care about our bodies. If something is wrong, we want to catch it before it spreads. We want to be in tiptop shape, because we understand how important it is.

Imagine seeing a mental health professional once a year. They check on you, ask how you’re doing, what’s new in your life. Maybe you disclose to them that some catastrophic event happened lately, and you’ve been struggling with it.

Maybe a loved one passed away, maybe you’ve lost your job, or maybe you’ve had a baby recently. All these are great reasons to talk to a professional. They have the skills and resources to help you along through the hard times.

What’s better than an objective advice giver, who really gives a damn about you?

Their whole job is to listen to you, and help you make the right decisions for yourself. You can’t say that about everyone in your life.

Health Professionals Over Friends

But Jordan, what about friends and family? They give me great advice, and I already trust them. Wouldn’t it be awkward if I talked to some random person about my issues?

This is important too! I want you to do this, and I want you to have those relationships with family and friends!

The difference between a mental health professional and a friend, is how they respond. A professional is trained and skilled in responding the correct way. They (should always) have an unbiased response that is in your best interest. Objectivity is key here people! They have less personal and emotional connection to the situation, and therefore should be able to guide you in the right direction.

Something that I would like to mention also, is that professionals see things we don’t. They are trained to see unhealthy habits, thoughts, and actions. They are also trained to help you change those negativity in your life to positivity.

Coming from personal experience, this is an entirely new world, but extremely helpful. Sometimes the people who are close to you don’t have an answer, or the right answer. This why you should trust a professional guide you to make good life decisions.

Mental health professionals are not there to solve your problems, and give you a quick fix. They are there to supply you with the tools to be a healthy, happy individual.

So go out there and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it!

What I want you to take away from this:

  • Understand how important your mental health is.
  • Love yourself, and take care of your mind, because it’s important.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

What are your thoughts?

How important is mental health to you?

Share your story with me! Don’t be afraid, this is an ENTIRELY JUDGMENT FREE ZONE!!!