Visualize Your Best Self to Build Confidence

Visualize Your Best Self to Build Confidence

Why Visualize Your Best Self?

Why would you want to visualize your best self?  Well, for a few reasons.

  1. Visualizing will remind you of how capable you are.
  2. Visualizing this will give you something to strive and work towards.
  3. And! Visualizing will help you gain confidence as you check off your list.

How To Visualize Your Best Self

Here’s your homework:

Answer these questions and write them down on a sheet of paper.

  • What words would you describe yourself?
  • Where is the best version of you living?
  • What job do you have?
  • Are you traveling the world, or are you settled into a cozy home?
  • Who are the most important people in your life? What roles do these people play?
  • What does a regular day look like, and what challenges do you face?
  • How are you dressing?
  • What hobbies do you have? What do you do in your leisure time?
  • How are you physically and mentally different as the best version of yourself?

Write your answers down and refer to them often. If you’re a more visual person like me, print out some inspiration photos and make a collage out of it! I made a few pages of collages for my dream home and it brightens my day every time I look at it.

My best self would look a little like this…

I see myself as energized, strong and confident. I see my best self living on a small farm filled with chickens and a few dairy cows. An ordinary day of the week would consist of feeding and caring for animals, spending time with family and friends, playing with my dogs, painting, blogging, and building furniture.

So try it out!

What does your best self look like? Share in the comments!

If you liked this post, Read This: How To Build Confidence Like A Pro

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5 Times To Squeeze Mindfulness Into Your Day

5 Times To Squeeze Mindfulness Into Your Day

What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness has been a catchy new trend, and for good reason. Mindfulness is a meditation tool that allows the mind and body to relax, observe, and experience life as it is.

Why is mindfulness important?

For many people these days, it’s easy to become caught up in daily activities and mundane tasks. Mindfulness helps you slow down, appreciate what you have in front of you, and release negative energy. For a more in depth description, see below.

Related: 5 Ways Mindfulness Affects Your Brain

5 Ways To Squeeze Mindfulness Into Your Day

5 Times To Squeeze Mindfulness Into Your Day

As you wake up

When your alarm goes off, resist the urge to jump out of bed and start your day right away. Take 10 minutes (unless you’ll be late) to slowly rise. Keep your eyes closed and breathe deeply.

Notice your breath and take advantage of the warm and cozy bed. Use this time to maintain deep breathing, and recognize every good sensation throughout your body. Start from your toes, and work through the top of your head.

Maintain this for 10 minutes until you feel soft, content, happy, and completely relaxed.

During meals

Meals are one of my favorite parts of the day. Like most people though, I tend to rush through them because I have a ton of other things going on. Do you multitask while you eat? I would guess yes.

Instead of rushing and multitasking, take this time to really appreciate what you have in front of you. Think of the journey your food traveled to arrive on your plate. Notice every sensation as you eat. Smell the aroma, feel the texture, notice the taste and texture inside your mouth. Breathe and be fully engulfed in eating one bite at a time, slowly.

Take pauses to breathe in and out. Notice your satiety rising as your hunger dissipates. Eat slowly, and savor every piece of food on your plate.

You might find that with this practice that you eat less. I usually tend to eat less when I eat slowly and really enjoy every bite. I also tend to eat healthier because I make more conscious choices about what I’m consuming. This may or may not happen, but it’s a perk of mindful eating!

Afternoon break

It’s the afternoon and you’re dozing off at your desk. It’s been a long day and you’re ready to hit the hay. Or! Take a moment to recharge during your afternoon work break. Sitting in a comfortable position at your desk, (or wherever is most cozy) and practice mindfulness.

Take 10 minutes as you did in the morning, and repeat that process. Close your eyes, take in a deep breath, hold it, and let it out slowly. Repeat this for a few minutes until you feel calm. Spend the rest of your ten minutes just being. Don’t revisit thoughts of work or stress.

When you bring stressful thoughts into your mind, acknowledge them, and blow them out with each breath.

After work walk

After work is a perfect time to take a mindfulness break! There are so many things you can do, but a personal favorite is a walk for some fresh air. Or, you can sit in your car, sit on your deck, or relax on your couch or favorite floor pillow.

I would recommend finding a nice quiet place to relax or walk your daily stress away.

If you take a walk outside, dress for the weather and step outside. Walk around your block or at a local park. Breathe deep and relax your mind. Notice how your feet approach the ground and how your arms sway back and forth. Smell the fresh air and feel the elements on your skin.

Avoid thoughts that don’t relate to the current moment. Take as long as you need to to relax and melt the stresses away.

As you go to bed

Prepping for bed can be short or you can really take advantage of the time you have. If you like to draw out the self care, this is a perfect time to do so.

Wash your face, brush your teeth, apply your nightly creams and moisturizers and shimmy into your most comfortable and cozy pajamas.

Burrow yourself into your bed and lay flat on your back. Stretch your entire body by raising your arms above your head and reaching your feet to the opposite wall. Now place your hands on top of your belly.

As you breathe deeply into your low belly, notice your hands rising to the ceiling with each breath. Breathe in slowly and deeply, hold it for a few seconds and let it out slowly. If counting helps you keep track of your breaths, do so. Breathe in 1, 2, 3, 4…Hold 1, 2, 3…Breathe out 1, 2, 3, 4, 5…

Focus your mind on your breath. Acknowledge thoughts, let them go and continue.

This has helped me fall asleep soundly better than anything else has. Practice mindfulness at bedtime and I promise your sleep will improve. It’s not easy to calm the mind, so practice, practice, practice! I still have a difficult time finding peace in the mind from time to time.

Create a challenge and practice mindfulness 5 times throughout the day when it’s convenient.

Did you wake more refreshed, or did it help you sleep better?

Did it ease any stress throughout the day?

Tell me how it goes!

Ways To Give Back and Why It’s Good For Your Mental Health

Ways To Give Back and Why It’s Good For Your Mental Health

Have you ever heard of how giving to others creates your own happiness? It’s true, and it has a lot of researched backing.

Giving back has been correlated with positive emotions time and time again. It may seem a little backwards, but think about it. Doesn’t it make you feel super awesome to give gifts or do a little charity work?

I for one, know that I always feel better once I do something for another person…or animal.

Related: The Day I Gave The Little I Had

For example, when I was little my babysitter and I would create fresh treats for the woodland animals at a lake on my island. We would string fresh cranberries and plain popcorn to trees, so that the animals in the area would have a little treat. Kind of fun right?

When was the last time you did something for someone without expecting anything in return? I hope you can say this morning, but if not, try it out. Try giving to people without expectation, and note how you feel afterwards.

I’m guessing you’ll feel pretty good!

Now, if you need some ideas to give back, you’ve come to the right place!

For your partner (or best friend)

  • Do the chores that they loath
  • Make them breakfast
  • Surprise them with their favorite hot drink
  • Write them a letter
  • Call them
  • Compliment them
  • Make them dinner
  • Craft them a little gift
  • Massage their feet
  • Bake them cookies

For your parents and/or grands

  • Write them a letter
  • Send them a photo in the mail
  • Visit them for lunch
  • Take them shopping
  • Take them out for a fun date
  • Wash their car
  • Mow their lawn
  • Do some household chores for them

For your kids

  • Read to them
  • Play with them
  • Craft something with them
  • Finger-paint
  • Play in the mud or run through the sprinklers
  • Go to the library
  • Take them to the park

For your fur babies

  • Give them a bath
  • Clip their nails
  • Bake some fur baby friendly treats
  • Pull out the wet food and celebrate them for being wonderful
  • Take them for a walk
  • Take them to the park
  • Teach them a new trick
  • Give them a massage

For strangers

  • Donate your clothes and food
  • Donate unneeded items in your house
  • Volunteer
  • Prepare gift bags for the homeless
  • Compliment them
  • If you see someone struggling, offer help
  • Perform small acts of kindness wherever and whenever you can

There you have it my friends! A list of a few things you can give back to the people in your life.

There are a few things this world will never get enough of, and that’s love and kindness.

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Turn Your Mood Around In 6 Easy Steps

Turn Your Mood Around In 6 Easy Steps

Have you ever been in a bad mood for no reason? Maybe you feel tired and unmotivated and you don’t know why. Chances are your body and mind need a little stimulation.

Follow these steps and I promise you’ll start to feel refreshed and energized. Hopefully these tips will turn your bad mood around and give you motivation to take on the world!

Stand up and stretch your muscles

If you’re sitting down at a desk or laying in bed, get up and do a little stretching. Even if you have to force yourself out of bed for just 5 minutes, do that.

I understand some days are just so much harder than others, so give yourself a break if you really need it. But if you’re really looking for a solution to your sticky situation, follow these tips.

Drink a glass of water and Eat something nutritious

In order for your mind to feel healthy, your body needs to be healthy! Don’t abuse your body by depriving it of what it needs. Drink a glass of water and prepare a bomb ass meal for yourself.

When I would struggle through a bad bout of depression, I should have done myself a favor and feed my body what it needed. I would be so depressed I wouldn’t get up to eat. Then, I would be so hungry I would sleep through it because I didn’t want to leave my bed. That’s fucking miserable. Don’t do what I did.

I promise you’ll feel better once you give your body what it needs.

Clean your room

Maybe this is just something that starts my day off well, but I can’t start any work without it. Cleaning my room clears my work space and it also makes me feel accomplished.

Even if you’re feeling shitty, at least you can say that you’ve done something for yourself today.

Do your hair and put something nice on

Every time I do this, I can’t help but feel better about myself. I look in the mirror and the little boost makes me feel ready for anything.

You know that saying, “If you look good, you feel good.”? Well it’s kind of true.

Now I’m not saying that you need either of these to feel good about yourself, but I do strongly believe in keeping up with hygiene to keep up your mood.

Take a walk outside and go somewhere new!

Get out of your house and breathe in some fresh air! Walk around the block, take your dogs to the park, or go on a hike.

Stimulate your senses by breathing in some fresh air and by moving your body. There is something special about the outdoors that really boosts your mood and turns your bad day around.

When you do something new, it forces your mind to really think and get out of autopilot. Drive a new route to work, walk to a new park, order something new at the coffee shop, cook yourself a new meal, or switch up your workout routine!

Do something for someone else

I love this one! Do you have a ton of clothes you don’t use anymore? Collect them and donate them. What about food? You’ll probably never eat that canned asparagus in your pantry. Where did that come from anyway? Drop it off at a food bank.

Write your mother a letter. Give your dog a bath. Call your dad. Take your grams shopping. Wash your partner’s car. Do that chore that your partner HATES, you know, because you love them! Make some homemade ice-cream with your kids. Google it, it’s really easy.

Think about all the wonderful people in your life and how much they influence the good in your life. Give something back to them. This will always make you feel better. Not to mention, this is a researched topic, so it’s bound to work!

What always makes you feel better?

Dog kisses?

A walk in the park?

Tell me in the comment section below!

How To Have Stress Free Finals

How To Have Stress Free Finals

If you’re looking for a stress free final solution, you’ve come to the right place! If you’re just getting into college, on your last semester, or somewhere in between…I’ve got some good stuff for you!

I graduated from college a little over a year ago now, and I’ll share with you a few tips I picked up through my 5 1/2 years of experience.

How To Have Stress Free Finals

Start as soon as you can

If there’s one thing you need to learn, it would be good time management. Not everyone can procrastinate and succeed. More often than not, procrastination leads to stress…which is why we’re here right?

Get yourself a really good planner with lots of room to write, label, and organize. Use the slower time of the semester to really be proactive about studying. Study chapters as they come up, instead of trying to read through ten chapters the night before the final.

You’ll be far more successful and stress free if you’re proactive about studying.

Organize your shit

Like I mentioned before, get yourself a good planner. Write down deadlines, block out times to study. Hell, block out times for everything you do during your day if that helps you. (It does for me!) I’m a person who loves to organize, and good thing too because I wouldn’t be nearly as successful without it.

Color coordinate different classes, different types of assignments, or even by priority. What I like to do is color coordinate by classes, draw an empty little box next to the assignment, and fill it in once it’s done. Sounds easy right?

This way, I know what I need to do and I feel pretty damn good about myself after I check everything off.

Prioritize

Prioritizing is a huge part of having a stress free final. The assignments and papers that are due first should always come first. The big assignments and things that are worth the most points should be high on the list as well.

With the big assignments too, start early. Check number 1!

Single-task as much as possible

As much as everyone believes to be amazing multitaskers, research has shown over and over again that multitasking leads to shitty results. Sure, you get everything done, but if you had done them all one at a time, you know you would be creating some quality shit.

And as a side note, life is much more enjoyable if you really live in the moment and experience everything one at a time.

Build confidence

Did you know that confidence is a huge contributing factor to success? It is. People going into a stressful situation with confidence are far better off than those without.

Try this. When you need a little boost of energy and confidence, try a power stance. I know it sounds kind of funny, but it’s helped a lot of people gain confidence for difficult situations.

Stand up straight, step your legs to the width of your hips, place your hands on your hips, and breathe with purpose. Imagine yourself succeeding. Tell yourself affirmations that motivate and encourage you to do your best. Stand there for five minutes and smile at yourself in the mirror.

If you’re feeling embarrassed, go to a private place, and say these things in your mind.

Reward yourself

My favorite part, the rewards! You’ve worked hard and you deserve a little somethin’ somethin’!

When you’ve gone through the entire day according to plan, treat yourself. When you’ve studied your little heart out, treat yourself. Hell, even if you need to place a gummy bear throughout the pages of your book as you’re reading to get through it, do that.

If relaxation motivates you to work, treat yourself with a hot bath or a Netflix episode. If sweets motivate you, eat a treat after you’ve accomplished a goal. Whatever works for you, reward yourself with that.

Personally, I would always reward myself with some dark chocolate or a nap.

Reward yourself because you deserve it!

What helps you during finals?

25 Lessons Learned In 25 Years

25 Lessons Learned In 25 Years

Holy crap! Can you believe that I’m already a quarter of a century old? I’m sort of torn about it, but I’m definitely excited!

On one hand, I feel like an adult. I’ve felt like a responsible adult for a long time. I pay bills, I keep my dogs and plants alive, I know how to cook, and I do my own taxes. These are all pretty adult things, yeah?

On the other hand I still feel like a child. Not because I rely on my parents to make my lunch or do my laundry, but because adulthood takes me by surprise sometimes.

Why being an adult is surprising

For example, it surprises me that I’m capable of having children. Like, I’m ready physically AND emotionally. Weird. I’m at a point in my life where I believe I would be a good parent, and that’s the most difficult job in the world sooo… That’s kind of a big deal.

I’m capable of buying a house and it’s crazy exciting! (This year I’m buying a house, YAAAS!)

Dreaming versus Doing

Life makes a switch when you actually experience something versus fantasize about it. You see that thing in a whole new light. Like getting a new puppy, owning a house, getting married, and having children.

All of a sudden I’m a adult…like my parents? They’re definitely adults. Capable, hardworking, successful and responsible. Although I’ve done well so far, there is so much more to learn and experience.

I guess that means you never stop learning. Which also means I’m going to make more mistakes, learn from them, and continue to seek guidance from my parents…

Now! On to the good stuff.

25 Lessons Learned In 25 Years

25 Lessons Learned In 25 Years

  1. You’ll regret avoiding your bills. Just pay that shit.
  2. Electricity is expensive. Dad was right. Put on more clothes or run around the house a few times.
  3. The world owes you nothing. Working hard is the only way.
  4. Building credit ASAP is important. Confusing at 18, but important.
  5. You’re never too old to start something new.
  6. Mistakes and failures are lessons, not the end of the world. Everyone makes mistakes.
  7. Cherish all positive relationships in your life. Plant them, water them, and let them bloom.
  8. Forgive people and purge toxic relationships. Life is too damn short for that shit.
  9. You’ll never be fully ready for anything, so just go for it.
  10. The more you know, the more you realize what you don’t know.
  11. Life goes by faster as you get older.
  12. Every day is a new opportunity and something to be grateful for.
  13. Mental illness isn’t a life sentence. You are not what happened to you.
  14. Happiness is achievable. You have to work for it, because it doesn’t just fall in your lap.
  15. Let go of what you can’t control, you’ll only stress yourself out.
  16. Change is inevitable, embrace that shit. In yourself and others.
  17. Go to the doctor, dentist and eye doctor regularly. It could save your life.
  18. Appearance isn’t everything. How you treat yourself and others is far more important.
  19. Other women are not your competition, the patriarchy is.
  20. If you bleach your hair, accept the consequences.
  21. Money isn’t everything. Happiness is.
  22. Self care first. Everything else second.
  23. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to your best friend. You wouldn’t be a dick to them, so why be that way to yourself?
  24. Gratitude is a sure way to happiness. Practice it all the time.
  25. Losing your temper and being a dick won’t get you anywhere. What you put into the world is what you get back.

There you have it. I’ve compiled the 25 most important lessons I’ve learned in my time on this earth. You’re welcome.

Have I missed anything?

What’s most important to you?

How To Start Living In The Moment

How To Start Living In The Moment

Get the most out of life by living in the moment.

How To Start Living In The Moment

Embrace minimalism

When you have less possessions, every piece left becomes much more important and useful. Hoarding too many useless possessions will clutter your house and your mind. Donate it, sell it, or throw it away.

Take a moment and look at everything you own. Have you been looking for a good reason to organize and purge your closet? Every weekend spend some time going through your stuff and clearing out everything that you don’t use and believe to be beautiful.

Begin each day as a blessing

See every new day as a fresh opportunity to do something amazing. Let go of what happened yesterday and begin each and everyday with motivation and vigor.

Be mindful every moment of the day

With all of the responsibilities we have everyday, it’s easy to slip into a monotonous routine. Sometimes the day flies by without us even noticing!

I know we are all fantastic at multitasking, but single tasking is far more efficient and enjoyable. Single tasking is performing one task at a time without losing focus on the task at hand.

When you are at work, fully engulf your energy into that task. Do you best and strive for efficiency. We are far more productive when we put down our phone, get off of Facebook, and refrain from mindlessly pinning to our wedding board. Or is that just me? hehe

There is a time and a place for this, and it’s not during work time, or family time.

Eat mindfully

Fully enjoy your food. Take advantage of every bite, and appreciate every bite.

When you eat breakfast, focus on the taste of your food, how it feels in your mouth, and the mouthwatering aroma.

Put down your phone and just eat. Sounds crazy right? Well when we multitask while eating we tend to eat more, eat more calories, and we simply don’t enjoy it as much.

Forgive the past

Forgiveness is something that I’ve been working on in the past year, and I’m far more happy now that I have.

Holding onto the negative energy of the past will constantly hold you down. It ruins the present, and wastes so much valuable time. Forgiveness is hard, but it will set you free. I promise.

Read more about forgiveness here.

Enjoy what you do

To fully enjoy the present, it would make sense that you must enjoy what you do, right? Make the most out of everyday and see everything you do as practice or a learning experience.

We don’t always love our jobs, but take advantage of what you have and learn something from what you’re doing. At very least, be grateful that your job puts food on the table.

And if you’re one of the lucky ones and you enjoy your job, good for you! Don’t let a moment pass where you take for granted what you do everyday.

Dream big

Set goals and plans for your future. The work you do today is the very beginning of your lifelong success. Every little bit of effort counts.

Understand what you can control, and let the rest go

Do you spend a lot of time stressing about other people or what they’re doing? Be rational with yourself. Understand that you are the only person you have control over. You cannot control traffic, or your siblings, or the pace of the checkout line.

Take every moment as it is, and understand what you have control over. Yourself, and how you react to your world.

Learn every day

Like I mentioned before, every day is a new opportunity to start fresh. The wonderful thing about learning is that we have to be fully focused in order to actually learn the thing.

Search for answers and more efficient ways to handle your work. If you’re constantly learning, you are constantly progressing.

Keep and form healthy habits

Keep the healthy habits you have and kick the bad ones. You may be really good at taking your medication or vitamins. Keep doing that. Are you really good at getting enough sleep? Keep doing that too!

On the other hand, if there is something you want to work on, do it. Have you been waiting to kick your addiction to smoking? Or ice cream at 2 in the morning? Or maybe you have a bad habit of biting your nails.

STAAAAHP.

Keeping bad habits denies you from living in the present, and healthy living keeps you in the present. All you ever have is RIGHT NOW. Make the most of it.

How do you live in the moment?

Tell me in the comments!

How To De-Stress Your Morning

How To De-Stress Your Morning

Happy “back to work and back to real life”! Now that the holidays are over, and everyone has done their turn of the year celebrating, it’s time to get back to business. Let’s de-stress our mornings!

How To Destress Your Mornings!

Have any of you had a difficult time getting started this year? I know that I have! To be fair though, I was battling a nasty cold until the 5th so…

Here are some tips I’ve complied to help you de-stress your morning. These tips will better prepare you for the morning, and in turn will make your day run a little smoother.

Read on my busy bee’s!

Prepare your clothes for the next day

To make an easy transition into the morning, you’ll need to be prepared. The less thinking you have to do in the morning, the better! Am I right?

Start the night before by setting out your work clothes for the next day. This way you won’t be scrambling around for matched socks, the “right” outfit, and give you some extra time for that coffee you’re so eager to drink. I know you are!

Try overnight breakfast recipes

I’m guessing that many of you (just like me) tend to skip breakfast in the morning. Eek! You know it’s the most important meal of the day! You’ll never have to starve until lunch time again if you abide by this little rule.

You have two options. You can prep a little something like a banana, an apple, or a muffin. Or you can try an overnight recipe!

They work like this:

You pour the wet and dry ingredients into a mason jar, stir it, and let it sit in the fridge overnight! It’s as simple as that and ready to devour!

There are a few different options that include: rice pudding, chia seeds, oatmeal, etc. You can really customize this to your tastebuds so get creative!

Check out this recipe here.

Prep your lunch

While you’re making dinner the night before, make twice as much as you need so that way you can designate half of it for lunch the next day!

My boyfriend and I do this, and it works wonders for saving time, destressing our morning, and not to mention…saving money! We make dinner, and separate it into four parts. Two for dinner, and two in containers for lunch the next day. Easy peasy!

Set a timer on your coffee

If you have one of those fancy coffee machines that allows you to set a schedule, use it! It’s easy! Prep the coffee maker the night before, and when the time is right, it’ll start brewing itself.

This way, you never forget your coffee, and you’re not late to work because you’ve been waiting for your coffee to brew!

Make a designated spot for your keys and essentials

The best place to leave your keys is by the door. Buy or make a little key rack so that you always know where your keys are. Maybe add a little bowl on a table next to it for your wallet, watch, chapstick and to go comb?

You’ll never forget anything, and you’ll save time by never having to search for your keys. Because who doesn’t lose their keys? People who have a place for them! 🙂

Go to bed early

Easier said than done, but hear me out. The more sleep you have the night before, the less stressed you’ll be the next day. Simple.

You wake up on time, you’re not rushing around, therefore you’re less stressed.

Wake up at the same time everyday

To make the previous step easier, go to bed at the same time everyday.

I’ll be honest with you, I almost never do this. What I do know though, is that it’ll help you keep a healthy sleep schedule.

I promise to try if you do! 🙂 It’s actually one of my goals for this year, so I am trying!

Create a commuter playlist

One of the most stressful morning to-do’s for everyone, is the commute to work.

Ugh. The traffic, the assholes cutting you off, the shitty playlist on the radio that you’ve heard a million times…

Do yourself a favor and make your commute a happy one! Make yourself a playlist that will get you started for the day and rock that shit until you get to work! I’m a huge fan of Otis Redding in the morning! 🙂

I’m always that person you laugh at in the car next to you… You know that wild woman screaming her favorite songs in the car? That’s me, and I have no shame.

You know what’s really awesome about this? I know that I’ve improved other people’s commutes by making them laugh and loosen up while they’re in traffic. This one time, some obviously frustrated guy looks over at me enjoying myself and singing in the car, and he couldn’t help but laugh at me and smile. He waved and drove on smiling.

Have no shame and sing in the car! 

Do you have any stories like that?

Try these tips and tell me how it goes!

Share with me in the comments!

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10 Lessons Learned in 2017

10 Lessons Learned in 2017

10 of the most important lessons I’ve learned this year. This past year I’ve done a lot of growing and learning. I chose to make a complete 180 with my life to pursue my art and my writing, and it hasn’t let me down so far!

Take what I’ve learned this year so you can start out 2018 with an advantage!

10 Lessons Learned in 2017!

Working from home is hard, so be prepared

I had this assumption that working from home would be easier than working somewhere else? That couldn’t be farther from the truth. Since I’ve done both, I can say that working from home is far more difficult than working for someone else.

*more difficult BUT far more rewarding.

There is so much that goes into starting your own business, and it just blew my mind. I feel like half my time was spent simply learning, and how to successfully run a business.

Most importantly, you have to motivate yourself to get shit done. You have to learn from your failures and try harder next time.

What you put into the world is what you get back

I am a strong believer in this one. What you put into the world is what you get back. If you put love and compassion into the world, you’ll receive it back. On the reverse, if you put hate and envy into the world, you will be surrounded by envy and hate.

You need to give your body what it needs

Something that took me a long time to accept is giving my body what it needs. I’ve spent a lot of time battling my feelings, my hunger, my pains, and my fatigue.

If you’re one of those people who is the mother to everyone around you, let me tell you something. Neglecting your own health and happiness will be the death of you!

Your own health and happiness is crucial to you and those around you. DO NOT SLACK ON YOUR OWN SELF CARE.

Read about How To Make a Self Care Package here…

When you’re tired, rest, and when you’re hungry, eat. When you can’t take anymore socializing, go make a nest in your room and hide from the world. Oh! You’re sick? Take care of yourself. Don’t power through life like you’re Superman, because you’ll eventually turn into the Hulk. Notice I didn’t say Bruce Banner. *wink*

Setting goals is how you move forward and feel accomplished

Setting goals for myself this year has been my motivation to move forward and accomplish things I wanted to accomplish. For a while in the beginning of the year I felt as if I was just floating in the wind hoping something good would happen.

I had a dream, but no direction. A dream is just a dream if you don’t take the necessary steps to get there. What makes a dream a goal, are the steps.

Something that is really rewarding for me, is checking something off a list. Especially if it’s something big, like my first craft show for example. For many people, it’s just a craft show. For me, I worked hard and spent many hours preparing for that craft show. It feels good to check those off the list!

This brings me to my next lesson.

Great accomplishments take time

The society we live in today promotes fast success and instant gratification. Well, as much as those words are thrown around…they’re not entirely true.

The people who are successful are the ones who work really hard…all the time. Every big company started somewhere small, and it took a lot of time to get to where they are now.

I need to remind myself all the time that what I’m trying to accomplish takes time.

The difference between people who are successful and unsuccessful…is when they give up. Successful people don’t give up no matter how many times they fail.

That’s the difference.

For your sanity, set boundaries

Do you have that family member or friend that just sucks the life out of you? No matter how excited you are about life, all they do is bring down the party with their bad vibes?

Set boundaries with those people. It can be a mindful choice of your own, or you can talk to them about it openly.

Keep them at whatever distance feels the best for you. If you live with these people, make sure that you have certain guidelines that will keep you happy too. For example, set a designated space for yourself that you cannot be interrupted in.

That’s what I do. I live with two children and if I didn’t set boundaries, I would never get anything done. So, I manage a balance between giving them attention and being alone. You know, because I’m not a heartless bitch, but I also have a business to run.

Pick your tribe wisely

Cleanse yourself of all the toxic people in your life, and spend your time with people who care about you.

Choose people for your tribe that bring out the best in you. Surround yourself with a tribe who will push you to be your best self.

The people you surround yourself with are a reflection of yourself. Who do you want to be? What do you want to accomplish? How do you want to feel? Make decisions about friends based on these questions.

Organization and routine are life

Keeping myself on track was a huge priority for me, and the only way to accomplish that is to be organized and keep a routine.

Once I created a reasonable routine for myself, my life became more clear. I had direction and organizing my life helped me stay a little less anxiety free.

Battling mental illness is a lifelong struggle, but you’re not stuck

I’ll be honest, mental illness sucks sometimes. The only thing you can do is try to improve yourself. The harsh truth is that you have to put in the effort to get better.

Read about How To Tackle Down a Bad Day here…

Mental illness is not something to be taken lightly, and I respect anyone struggling with it. What I know about mine is that the more effort I put in, the happier I become. Once you learn what works best for you, stick to that and keep working.

Many treatments for mental illness are trial and error. The medication, the therapy, the practice, the homework… Don’t be discouraged if you don’t find a quick and easy fix right away. Not every treatment is going to work for you so give yourself the time to search for what’s right.

All good things take time, and your mental health is absolutely worth it.

Happiness is achievable if you put the work in

If you’re like me, and you weren’t just born as a Sally sunshine, then keep reading. Happiness is something you choose, and it’s something you work for. It doesn’t just happen.

If you want to be happy, you have to work for it. One of my biggest pieces of advice I could give anyone is to learn gratitude. So incredibly important that I’ve written a few posts about it!

Read about How To Boost Happiness here…

Read about Why You Need Gratitude Journal here…

And I’ll continue to do so until everyone is happy!

 

What have you learned in 2017?

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How To Make 2018 YOUR Year!

How To Make 2018 Your Year! Set Goals and Keep Them!

It’s almost that time. It’s almost the turn of the year, and you know what that means…? New Year’s Resolutions. Gah! Let’s set some goals!

How To Make 2018 Your Year! Set goals and keep them!

I’ll be honest with you. I LOVE New Year’s Resolutions! I love the fresh start and setting new and challenging goals for myself. It puts something I want in sight, and I know which direction to go. That’s why I’m sharing this goal setting post!

Notice I didn’t mention anything about a gym membership. You know, because how many people follow through with that after March? Or even January?

I didn’t, and I’m not ashamed to admit it!

Now! On to the important stuff!

Find out what’s important to you

This is the fun part! The first step is the brainstorming step! I don’t want you to skimp on this one. To make it fun, I would recommend getting creative with this part. Grab a big piece of paper, a variety pack of markers, and don’t hold back!

What’s important to you? How do you imagine your best self? What kind of person do you want to be? Think back at what you wanted to be as a kid. Do you still share some of those dreams? What do you want to improve about yourself? Think about things you want to learn. Do you have a hobby you’ve been putting off for when you have “more time”?

Don’t be boring and generic. So go big! Get creative! There is no limit, and there is nothing too small.

Happiness? Health? Self-confidence? Promotion? Learn to paint? Learn carpentry? Have more fun? Save money? Eat less dessert…(or more in my case)? #cantstopwontstop #noshame

Set goals

The second step is for organizing your beautiful mess of ideas. Circle first priority ideas with one color, second with another, and so forth.

I like to challenge myself and set a gazillion goals for myself. I thrive on having too much on my plate, so this works for me! Personally, I’ve separated my goals into three categories: personal, blog, and my art business. You can imagine how long those lists got!

Set goals that are easily attainable. Set goals that are a bit challenging, and set goals that scare you. The only way to know how far you’ll go is by testing it. Don’t hold back my friends.

You are far more capable than you think you are.

List the necessary steps to get there

Write down basic steps to get you moving in the right direction. Don’t get too detailed yet because you’ll have plenty of time for that throughout the year. Plus! It might get a tad overwhelming.

Use a fair timeline to attain your goals. Don’t give yourself too little, or too much time. Too little time might leave you discouraged, and too much time might leave you unmotivated.

Write down what might hold you back

Something interesting that I thought of while brainstorming for this post is overcoming obstacles. I put myself in the mind of someone reading this, and thought to myself that this may be overwhelming. I also thought about how everyone inevitably treks through obstacles throughout their life.

Set yourself some goals, then give a little thought into what might hold you back? Do you lose motivation easily? Is money an obstacle? Are you scared of failing?

Use these possible setbacks as a way of foreseeing the future. We all make mistakes, fall down, and fail, so don’t expect achieving all these awesome goals is going to be easy!

Now, jot down counter attacks to your obstacles

What will you do in the face of adversity? How will you pick yourself up? What would you tell your best friend if they failed at something? Say those encouraging words to yourself.

Most importantly, forgive yourself for your mistakes. Everyone makes them, and you’ll only make it worse by tearing yourself down farther.

Make a list of affirmations

Hoo hoo! What’s an affirmation you ask? An affirmation is the action or process of being affirmed. It is support and encouragement. The important thing about affirmations is that you have to say it as if it’s true RIGHT NOW.

Instead of… “I want to be successful this year.”

Say this… “I am capable and success flows to me freely.”

See how much more empowering that is?

Get a bullet journal and keep track of your progress

I know, I know…this crazy bullet journal craze! I’ve jumped on the bandwagon and I may never go back! I bought myself two bullet journals (one for personal, one for my art business) and some colored pens.

Then, I pinned a ton of inspiration on Pinterest and customized mine to fit my needs. I really love that I can personalize it to every little goal I have. I can track my daily habits and give myself tons of space for writing.

It might just be the best type of planner I’ve ever had! I am all about planning and organizing so I love bullet journals!

What are you 2018 goals?

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How and Why I’m Having a Minimal Christmas

How and Why I’m Having a Minimal Christmas

How I'm Having a Minimal Christmas

The Winter season is one of my favorite times of year. I love the snow, the family, the food, the ambiance. However, often times what comes with all the holiday joy, is the dreaded holiday stress and anxiety.

Reduce Holiday Stress With These 15 Tips

We often feel the need to impress every family member with new and shiny gifts, or maybe an extravagant feast.

This year, I decided to embrace frugality and participate in a minimal Christmas. Gasp! How is that even possible? Don’t you love your family? Don’t they deserve all of the things? Yes they do, but there are more important things than toys and things.

Why?

I have my own beliefs and opinions about this time of year, and I want to share it with you.

I believe that holiday “gift giving” season is often wasteful, superficial, and unnecessary. Phew! I said it. I know it’s a little harsh but hear me out.

Like most of you I’m sure, I love to spoil my loved ones and show them how much I care for them by giving them gifts…to an extent. Gift giving has become extremely materialistic, and excessive. Nowadays we don’t appreciate what we have because we’re constantly receiving shiny new things all the time. We don’t have time to appreciate it.

Excessive holiday gift giving is so wasteful!

Does your mom really need a new television EVERY year? Does the little human in your life really need their 30th baby doll? Or does your aunt (you never talk to) need some stupid gift, because you don’t know her well enough to get her something meaningful? Absolutely not. Think about all the waste and garbage created in your household. Yikes! The holidays are about who you spend it with, not what you gift and receive.

Don’t go into debt spending money for the holidays, it’s just unnecessary. In 10 years, you’ll remember the memories you made with your loved ones, not the gifts you were given. So don’t let the holidays stress you out. If you don’t have the money, don’t spend it. If all you can give is your love, give your love.

Show your family and friends that you love them by spending quality time with them, laughing, and sharing stories.

How?

For my family, this year I’m limiting one gift for each close family member. I’m trying to make everything myself if I can. I would tell you what I’m making, but that would give away the secret! So shhh… If I’m not making it myself, I’m buying something useful and sustainable.

However, there are a few exceptions. I’m spoiling my boyfriend and dog child with more than one gift.

How do I not buy all of the things?

My boyfriend and I created three guidelines this year that we’re going to follow.

1. One Christmas Eve box filled with new pajamas, and little treats for a cozy movie night together to open and use Christmas Eve.

I’m particularly excited for this one! Most people love a new pair of warm and comfy jammies on Christmas, and what better time to use them…than the Eve of Christmas?! Think about it. You wake up on Christmas morning with new jammies on, open your stockings, and make breakfast together…in your pajamas?! What’s better than that?!

2. One stocking full of small, useful, and necessary gifts to open Christmas morning.

This will more than likely include items that involve daily hygiene and usage. You know, the soaps, the razors, the scrubs, the socks, the coffee mugs…

3. One handmade gift and/or bought gift to open on Christmas morning.

My boyfriend and I originally decided on one handmade gift. I’ll admit it! I went a tad over and bought a little somthin’ somthin’ to go with his handmade gift. My excuse is that it doesn’t fit in the stocking! (WHOOPS) Take the time to make it meaningful, and there will be less room for excess.

And that’s it!

This still may seem excessive to some, but this is a major downgrade from what I’ve usually done in the past. We decided to be more minimal, but also traditional as a compromise. We just couldn’t give up the stockings and little gifts!

How can you be less wasteful this holiday season?

Is it worth it to you?

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How To Beat Procrastination When You Work From Home

How To Beat Procrastination Especially When You Work From Home

Procrastination can be a day ruiner, especially when you work from home. Like me, working from home can be difficult sometimes. We have so many other things on our plate. We’re not only business owners, but we have families and other obligations.

How To Beat Procrastination Especially When You Work From Home

Often times when you work from home, you feel obligated to keep the household in order too. Something really important to remember people! You work from home, so don’t allow yourself to get distracted with household chores! Work hours are for work, not household duties! I know it’s easy to take a break and start some laundry, but don’t let yourself get distracted for hours. I know I’m guilty of that.

In part I’m writing this post because sometimes I have difficulty staying on task throughout the day. I’m one of those people who thrive under stress, so I work my tail off when it’s required. When I need to “just keep swimming” is when I have a problem with procrastination. I’m going to give you some tips that have helped me beat procrastination.

Create an awesome morning routine

I don’t know about you, but I am all about routine. And I believe a great day starts with a great and productive morning!

Put some upbeat jams on, take a shower, eat a delicious and nutritious breakfast, stretch your legs, and pour yourself your morning cup of joe! Every morning I make myself a delicious cup of coffee to get me going, and reward myself for getting my ass up. You know, because it’s hard sometimes!

Read about Why You Need A Morning Routine

Set yourself up for success

After you’ve taken care of your body, set your work space up for productivity. Everyone’s situation will be different, and you’ll know what’s best for you.

Clean up the space so you have no clutter distractions. For me, this means picking up my room and making my bed. Prepare your computer or your supplies and set them up so that they’re ready to use.

I work from home, and my work space is in my abnormally large bedroom. One side of the room has my bed, clothes, and usual bedroom things. The other side of the room is a big cluster of canvases, paintings, packaging supplies, and an endless supply of art supplies.

This step is crucial for me, because if I don’t set up my work space, I’m tempted to lay in bed all day. You know…Because it’s right there calling my name. So! I put up a huge 8×3 foot table and made that my official business space. I set up my easel with supplies, or I set up my computer space for blogging. This way I have no reason to go back to bed.

Set goals and stick to them

I’m a huge advocate of having goals. Who doesn’t feel amazing after they’ve accomplished something they’ve been working on? Having goals reminds you of where you’re going, and what you’re striving for. Working with no goals can be discouraging because you never feel like you accomplish anything.

Have goals in your life, and take the necessary steps to get yourself there. This will keep you busy and on track. When you don’t complete a task because you were procrastinating, hopefully that will spark a flame in you to work harder next time!

Keep a planner and visual aid

The best way to set goals and to keep them is to write them down. I use a planner that I set goals for every day. I check my planner numerous times a day to keep myself focused and motivated to get work done. Checking items off a list is almost all the reward I need!

(Get a bullet journal, they can be really amazing.)

Similar to a planner, if you need a little extra reminder, try using a visual aid in your work space. It’s much easier to remember your tasks if you can see them. Write notes on stickies in places you’ll find them to motivate you to get to work. Encouraging notes can go really far.

Ask for help

Sometimes the best way to remind yourself to get to work is to have someone else hold you accountable. Ask a friend for a favor. If your goal is to exercise every morning, have your friend check in with you. Or if they’re really motivated, ask them to be your work out buddy. (That’s a friend right there.)

I’ve found that this really works for me. One of my goals is to send a newsletter out every Monday for my blog. I asked my best friend to ask about it if she didn’t receive it. (You know who you are). And you know what? That actually happened once, and then I got straight to work. People feel more responsibility if others are counting on them for something.

Get your ass up and work for at least 10 minutes

I’ve mentioned this before in my How To Find Motivation When You Have Depression blog, and I’ll say it again. Sometimes the hardest part of procrastination is just getting started. Most often once you’ve gotten started, you feel the push you need to keep going.

So I’ll challenge you to force yourself to work really hard for 10 minutes, and see how far that takes you. You might find yourself working for hours. Or you might need a break because today’s hard. I totally get it. You know what’s best for yourself.

But I bet you’ll feel better because you got something accomplished?!

This brings me to my last tip.

Reward yourself afterwards

You deserve a reward dammit! You work hard, and you give everything your best! You’re probably as hard on yourself, as I am on myself. Which is worrisome, because I feel like I never give myself a break.

But I know that I deserve a little somthin’ somthin’ for how hard I work. You do too. After you’ve accomplished your tasks for the day, give yourself a reward. That may be a book reading session, playing on your phone, eating that delicious dessert that’s been staring at you all day….or whatever seems fitting.

Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you don’t deserve rewards or breaks. Treating yourself to breaks and treats will keep you motivated and far more productive, I promise.

On an end note I’ll share a secret with you. In my entire college career, I probably had a total of five all-nighters. You know why? Because I value sleep like it’s gold, and I know that I will be far more productive with a good night’s sleep. This doesn’t apply to everyone, but I know that my all-nighters produced shit for work.

Productivity and efficiency come with rewards and breaks. Don’t be so hard on yourself, and really reward yourself for your hard work. You deserve it!

Procrastination problems? Me too!

Tell me about it in the comments!

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How To Be Body Positive

How To Be Body Positive

how to be body positive

Body positivity. Lets talk about the one thing no one teaches you as a young person. Body positive. From my experience, this is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to teach myself. I still struggle with it every day. You know that opposite feeling you get, when you want to love your body but you hate it too?Or you know what to say to yourself, but you don’t believe it?

That stops today. We are going to be body positive together, starting now.

In today’s blog post I’m going to challenge you to live by the rules I’ve listed below. Let us do it together!

Be more than a body

Despite popular belief, you are more than just a body. Yes, you have a body, but you also have so many other things about you that matter so much more. You have your dreams and your passions. You have what your provide for your family. You’re a friend, and a family member, and a colleague.

You were not put on this earth for the eyes of others. You were put on this earth to live your life the way you want. Your worth does not depend on what your body looks like.

Read more on following your passion here…

Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own

In our society it’s difficult to avoid the airbrushed, photoshopped, perfect bodies and faces we see everyday. Most importantly, don’t compare yourself to unachievable beauty. You will always come out feeling discouraged.

Just because someone is beautiful, it does not mean that it takes away from your own beauty. They are beautiful, and so are you.

Think of it this way. A willow tree doesn’t compare itself to a pine tree. Although they are very different, they are both beautiful. The willow tree doesn’t wish to be the pine tree, because it knows it’s worth and purpose.

Loving your body ONLY when it’s in perfect shape is like loving your kids ONLY when they behave

Do not have conditions on your self love. Love yourself unconditionally, and you will love yourself everyday, with every perceived flaw. You deserve love no matter what you look like.

Health isn’t just about what you eat, it’s also about you say and think

Physical health is important, but physical health does not equal mental health. Health is not having a perfect body, and hating yourself at the same time.

Read more about mental health here…

Losing weight does not cure negative body image

Negative body image is something that stays with you no matter how much you weigh, or what you look like. If you hate your body, you will always find something to hate about yourself. Once you lose the ten pounds you wanted, you’re going to find an area on your body that’s still not perfect. It’s a never ending cycle.

Exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it

Does this one seem a little backwards from popular belief? But also exactly what it needs to be? Maybe it’s just me, but working out has always been in conjunction with me wanting to change my body. I sure as hell never went to the gym thinking that I’m there because I love my body. But it’s the right way of thinking, isn’t it? Being physically healthy is a key ingredient to living a long and happy life. Often times though, people are punishing themselves at the gym. Not loving themselves.

There is no wrong way to have a body

You were born with an extremely unique set of genes that have been passed onto you from generations. You are your mother and your father. There are a gazillion (it’s a number) different combinations of bodies out there, and yours is exactly what it needs to be. A body is a body. It’s very simple. You weren’t made incorrectly, therefore there is no wrong way to have a body. Every part of your body is what makes you unique, not wrong or ugly. 

Beauty is not what people say is beautiful. Beauty is what you already are.

What’s beautiful is who and what you are naturally. There is no one type of beauty. There is beauty in every person and living creature. You are beautiful because you are you.

Be whoever the hell you want to be. There is no wrong way to be yourself.

Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend

Imagine yourself in front of a mirror. What are you thinking? If you’re saying things to yourself that you wouldn’t  and couldn’t utter to your best friend…take it back. You deserve the same respect you give your best friend.

You would tell your best friend that she’s beautiful including all her perceived flaws, and you wouldn’t be lying. Because she is beautiful, and so are you.

Life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself

To reiterate, there is so much more to life than your appearance. Don’t waste another minute hating yourself, and wishing you were someone else. Spend your life doing what you love. Be unapologetically you.

Think about all the energy you put into being at war with yourself. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to celebrate and love yourself no matter what? Think about the peace you would feel. Hold onto that and don’t let it go.

I’ll keep you accountable, if you hold me accountable.

What’s your story?

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How To Be A Better Communicator

How To Be A Better Communicator

How to be a better communicator!

How To Be A Better Communicator!

Because we care about our loved ones and the relationships we have with them, yes?

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my own experiences and others’, is that communication is paramount. Communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship. And on the same note, communication is one of the most difficult aspects of a relationship.

In my opinion, lack of communication or poor communication is the main cause of conflict in relationships. There is so much to learn about communication, but I’m here to tell you how to be a better communicator.

These tips can be used with any type of relationship, and I encourage you to use these with everyone. Your partner, family, friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and strangers. All these relationships will benefit from better communication.

Remain Calm at All Times During Communication

This is sort of a no-brainer, but it’s often very difficult. Remaining calm will allow everyone involved to communicate more clearly. Raising your voice will only start a competition of who can yell louder. Raising your voice may lead to hurtful words. Then, it becomes a competition of who can be the nastiest to the other.

Have you ever had a conversation get so out of control you said something you didn’t mean? I have, and I regret it. You can always apologize, but you can never take back what you say.

Remaining calm is the number one rule in communication.

No Calling Names

Piggy-backing off of what I just said, do not allow yourself get out of control and call someone a name.

It’s hurtful and distasteful. Just don’t do it.

When you call someone a bad name, it says something about your character, not theirs. You should always be able to contain your anger and frustration when communicating with someone. Calling names also influences the other to say something hurtful back.

This brings us to the next tip.

Don’t Place Blame

Placing blame doesn’t solve the issue, it redirects the attention from the issue to the person. When people are being blamed for something, they tend to take on the defensive. No one likes being told that they’re wrong. The person being blamed may not even believe they did anything wrong, and so the conflict ensues.

While taking one of my psych classes, I learned something really helpful.

Instead of placing blame, just communicate how you feel and how whatever they said effected you. Try it with me!

WRONG: You are so inconsiderate for being late all the time!

RIGHT: I feel anxious and frustrated when you’re late. It makes me feel like you don’t care about my obligations.

Dang that’s good! But can you see how much more helpful the second option was?

The wrong way to communicate how you feel is getting frustrated, raising your voice, and placing blame. People are much more likely to listen to you and do what you say, if you’re calm. Also, it tells them how it affects you. If the other person cares about you, they will listen.

Tell Them How You Feel

Now this may seem obvious, but people often either don’t say it or don’t know how to express it. I say this because whoever you’re communicating with cannot read your mind.

I repeat. No one can read your mind.

You can’t assume that your partner or whoever knows what you’re thinking. People are not always aware of how their actions affect the ones around them. It’s obvious to you! But not always obvious to them. So tell them how you feel, and why.

This makes life a lot more complicated.

Don’t Be Afraid to Tell Them What You Want

Similar to the previous piece, tell people what you want. When you tell people what you want, they have a clear understanding of what you expect. When you don’t communicate this, they may not know. Also, again, assuming that they know what you want isn’t helpful. Remember they can’t read your mind.

It’s good for you because you get what you want sooner. It’s helpful for them because they don’t have to guess what you want by trial and error.

Easy right?

Give Love to Receive Love

There are very few things in this world, that the only way to receive something, is to give it away.

It sounds like it should be the opposite right? But it’s not. The more love you give, the more love you receive. You feel the love by sharing it, and the universe gives it back to you in return. You create more love by giving it away.

So when you’re having a hard time communicating with someone, remember that you love them. So just love them. Just because you’re fighting or in a disagreement with someone, doesn’t mean you stop loving them.

When you miscommunicate and fight with someone, don’t withhold the love to make a point or keep your pride. Let your pride down, and just love them.

Listen to Understand, Don’t Listen to Reply

And last but not least, listen to understand, don’t listen to reply. This tip is my favorite. I feel that this tip cannot be achieved without some of the previous tips, so I placed it at the bottom.

If you take away one thing from this blog post, take this tip with you.

Listen to understand the person you’re talking to. Do not listen so that you can come back with something to say in return. When you listen to understand, you have a chance to understand that person. That’s the whole point of miscommunication right? To understand the other person? But when you’re trying to make a point, you are listening to make a comeback. You skip understanding them, because you’re busy thinking about what you’ll say back.

It’s really not complicated, but this happens all the time!

Think about it logically. You’re trying to come to an agreement. You’re disagreeing because you have differing opinions. The other person will not simply do as you say because you think it’s right. They think (whatever they’re thinking) because they think they’re right.

This is where listening to understand the other person comes in. You can only compromise when everyone’s opinion is on the table. If you don’t listen, you’re just blurting out your side of the story. No one likes people who don’t listen.

It’s a common mistake. I’ve done it too many times to count. I’m sure you have too.

What you can do about it, is pay attention to your thinking when you’re having an argument. Listen to the other person when they’re talking. Wait your turn, and reply. Reply with understanding….like…. “I understand what you mean, and I’m sorry I made you feel that way….This is what it was like for me…blah blah blah.”

If only every conversation was so easy, right?!

All I can ask of you is to try your best! So get out there and communicate like a pro!

Have any of these tips helped you?

Have you tried any of them?

How did it go?

How To Live A Positive Life

How To Live A Positive Life

 

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You Can Choose To Be Positive

I believe every situation can be seen negatively or positively. You can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react.

Instead of allowing negative situations to weigh you down, I challenge you to look at it in a positive light. You can choose to be negative, or you can choose to be positive.

I promise you that living life in the positive light will make you so much happier.

Negative Nancy

We all have that friend. Let’s call her “Negative Nancy”. We love Nancy, but we also can’t stand to be around her for too long. She’s so negative! Nancy always has something bad going on in her life, and she never gets a break. It seems like she’s not grateful for anything.

And don’t get me started on her one-up game. You know, you say something, and she negates what you say by telling you she’s dealing with something worse? Gosh I despise that.

Us positive people try to look on the bright side of things, and let Nancy know that you’re there for her. But no amount of listening, advise, or help will change her mind.

It’s quite sad really.

I’ve spent a significant amount of time in my life living on the negative side of things. And guess what? I was miserable. Who wants to live their life unhappy? It’s not fun, and it’s painful.

So if you are a negative Nancy, or would just like to push yourself towards happiness, keep reading.

Change your mindset, Change your life

Let’s be honest for a second. I’m not saying that every minute of every day will rainbows and butterflies. We all have bad days, and it’s appropriate to be upset. But living your life in the dumps is only blocking you from your full potential. Change your mindset, change your life.

Let me provide you with a few examples…

Negative: “I have to walk all the way up this hill to go to school.”

Positive: “I’m grateful that I have healthy legs to take me up this hill, so I can be educated.”

Negative: “I can’t believe I have to wait in line at the grocery store, there are never enough employees working here!”

Positive: “I’m glad that I’m wealthy enough to buy the groceries me and my family need.”

Negative: “I hate driving in traffic to go to work!”

Positive: “I’m lucky enough to have a car to take me to the job that supports me.”

Change your negative into a positive

When I found myself complaining, I would stop, and change it into a positive.

The other day, I was being particularly salty about life, and I had a pretty bad day. I was upset all day and when my boyfriend got home, I told him all about it…

Negative Version:

  • I didn’t work out this morning, I’m so lazy.
  • I took a nap today because I was so exhausted. I’m ashamed because I got less work done.
  • I ate unhealthy, and I shouldn’t have because I’m supposed to be eating healthy.
  • The paintings I made were terrible, and I didn’t make any solid work.
  • I only made ‘x’ amount of sales this month, I wish I had more or done more.

Whoa! Stop right there Nancy!

Sheesh, sounds like I’ve been pretty hard on myself all day right?

This is when my boyfriend responds with, “Now turn all of those negatives into positives.”

(We remind each other to do this when we’re having a bad day).

Positive Version:

  • I’ve worked out every other day this week, I deserve a day off.
  • Catching up on much needed sleep was great, because my body obviously needed it.
  • I ate delicious food today, and it’s okay not to eat like a rabbit all the time.
  • I got to practice new techniques, and explore new ideas today with my paintings.
  • I’ve sold ‘x’ amount of paintings this month, and I’ve worked hard for that. I’ll sell more.

Easy right? Well not all the time, but with practice it will come more naturally.

If this advise isn’t enough for you, let me give you a little something else. I’ve found something you can take home with you, enjoy, and enjoy over again.

Jordan, “I want to be happy now, DAMMIT!”

I’ve got just the thing for you.

A Bedside Read

Now, if you want a quick, fun, and helpful read, read this book.

How To Be Happy, Dammit! Written by Karen Salmansohn. This book is a “cynic’s guide to spiritual happiness”!

I absolutely love this book! This book is different. It’s easy to read, it’s colorful, and it does not sugar coat anything!

Seriously, I’ve read this book three times to remind myself of all the pearls of wisdom inside.

Before you know it you’ll be that annoyingly positive person AND YOU’LL LOVE IT! People will flock to you because your energy will be contagious! Your friends won’t be able to help themselves; they’ll have to be positive too.

If they don’t, share this post with them and hopefully we can change the world together!

Remember that sadness and negativity loves company, but also remember that happiness and positivity are contagious!

 

Be that positive happiness magnet!

What do you do to keep yourself positive?

Share with me in the comments!

Morning Routine-Why You Need One!

Why You Need A Morning Routine

Morning Routine

Create A Great Morning Routine, and Change Your World!

You need a morning routine because it will make you more productive! Having a productive morning routine starts the day off right, and puts positivity in motion!

Morning routines set the tone for the day. A great life starts with a whole bunch of great days!

My personal morning routine consists of:

Wake Up Before The Sun Shines

This one I struggle with.

What I want for myself is to be a morning person! I am far more productive when I start and end my day early. The key here is consistency! Set yourself up for success and have a regular bedtime seven days a week!

Creating a consistent sleep schedule will reduce sleepiness throughout the day.

Exercise

Wake up your body and mind by moving your body and changing your surroundings. Exercise will stimulate the body and jumpstart your day.

My boyfriend and I go to the gym for our exercise. This usually consists of some amount of cardio, weight lifting, and ten minutes in the steam room.

To keep things interesting, I schedule a different exercise for every day. Scheduling and planning is incredibly important to me, and this way, I have something different every day to look forward to.

  • Monday is arm day.
  • Tuesday is cardio.
  • Wednesday is core day.
  • Thursday is cardio.
  • Friday is leg day.
  • Saturday and Sunday are for some sort of fun exercise. Weekends usually consist of basketball, volleyball, or some other form of cardio.

Shower

Of course! We don’t want to be stinky!

Dress For Success

You know the phrase, “You look good, you feel good.” Well, it’s true.

Depending on your occupation and the day, your attire will change. Be the best judge for yourself. When you wear clothing that makes you feel good, you will portray that to the world.

Although pajamas are comfortable, (even if you work from home) wear something that you wouldn’t be embarrassed being seen in.

Wearing something deliberate will put you in the right mindset for what your day holds.

Skin Care

It’s time to prep your skin for the day! Slather on some moisturizer and SPF to protect from the sun.

Now I keep this step simple. Face moisturizer and little to no makeup. When I’m feeling fancy, I’ll put a little powder foundation on, mascara, and brush out my brows.

Like I said, I like to keep things simple. Because who has the time or motivation to spend four hours getting ready everyday? Definitely not me.

I used to spend hours getting ready in the morning, but as I’ve grown and matured, I’ve preferred a more natural face. (More on this later).

Hair Care

Again, simple! Yay! I have made this as easy as I can make it for myself.

I wash my hair with sulfate free shampoo three days a week. After my hair is washed, I spray in leave in moisturizer, brush it, let it air dry, and do something to pull the hair away from my face.

On the days I don’t wash, I spritz dry shampoo on my roots, and pull my hair out of my face.

Now wasn’t that easy? My younger self would not have survived this way, but over the last few years I’ve taken good care of my hair and skin.

I use heat on my hair maybe once a month.

Whaaaaaaat? How is that possible?

Well, I make due because I care more about the health of my hair, than the way it’s styled. Don’t get me wrong, it has taken me a long time to master this skill.

(Healthy hair post to come!)

Take Care Of The Pup

Feed, water and take the pup outside, because her health is just as important as mine.

Help Prepare The Boyfriend For The Day

I prepare his lunch, and coffee for him while he’s getting ready for his day.

We as a couple do everything as a team. So yes, this includes the little mundane daily tasks too!

I have the liberty to do this because I make my own schedule, and I start my work day once everyone else is taken care of. This benefits everyone, and keeps this busy household running smoothly!

Now is when I start my tasks for the day.

Fuel The Body

First I drink the coffee, then I do the things.

I start by making myself a delicious cup of coffee (because I don’t think I can survive without it).

Breakfast time!

Then I make myself a big bowl of cereal. I love cereal, so this is exciting everyday, haha! My favorite is Rice Crispies, what’s yours? 😉

Make My Bed

Because… “If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.” – Naval Admiral McRaven addressing the University of Texas, Austin, Class of 2014.

This was only one lesson from his speech, but I particularly like this one. Changing the world, changing your world, and making a difference, starts with little everyday tasks.

Little actions turn into big changes, and it all starts with making your bed!

Haha, but really, this is still pretty true.

Making your bed not only jumpstarts the productivity for the day, but it also communicates that it’s time to carpe the hell out of this diem.

Create a morning routine to promote productivity that will last all day.

Prep My Work Station

Now it’s time to really get to business. I set out my supplies for the day and get started. It sets the framework for what is expected of me that day.

There is no time to waste when you’re a full-time painter, and blogger! I am a business woman, and I take full advantage of my strengths and opportunity!

Review Daily, Weekly, and Monthly Goals.

I keep a planner, and boy does this set the day off to a great start! I love staying organized, and it really keeps me on track! I also bought one of those really beautiful, helpful, inspirational planners. This has made a world of difference!

I bought this one from Michaels, and I couldn’t be happier with it.

This planner is customizable, pretty, and fun to use. My favorite part about it is that they have pages for monthly goals. This really keeps me on track and motivated for every day!

Begin The Grind!

 

What does your morning routine look like?

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