How To Be Body Positive
Body positivity. Lets talk about the one thing no one teaches you as a young person. Body positive. From my experience, this is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to teach myself. I still struggle with it every day. You know that opposite feeling you get, when you want to love your body but you hate it too?Or you know what to say to yourself, but you don’t believe it?
That stops today. We are going to be body positive together, starting now.
In today’s blog post I’m going to challenge you to live by the rules I’ve listed below. Let us do it together!
Be more than a body
Despite popular belief, you are more than just a body. Yes, you have a body, but you also have so many other things about you that matter so much more. You have your dreams and your passions. You have what your provide for your family. You’re a friend, and a family member, and a colleague.
You were not put on this earth for the eyes of others. You were put on this earth to live your life the way you want. Your worth does not depend on what your body looks like.
Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own
In our society it’s difficult to avoid the airbrushed, photoshopped, perfect bodies and faces we see everyday. Most importantly, don’t compare yourself to unachievable beauty. You will always come out feeling discouraged.
Just because someone is beautiful, it does not mean that it takes away from your own beauty. They are beautiful, and so are you.
Think of it this way. A willow tree doesn’t compare itself to a pine tree. Although they are very different, they are both beautiful. The willow tree doesn’t wish to be the pine tree, because it knows it’s worth and purpose.
Loving your body ONLY when it’s in perfect shape is like loving your kids ONLY when they behave
Do not have conditions on your self love. Love yourself unconditionally, and you will love yourself everyday, with every perceived flaw. You deserve love no matter what you look like.
Health isn’t just about what you eat, it’s also about you say and think
Physical health is important, but physical health does not equal mental health. Health is not having a perfect body, and hating yourself at the same time.
Losing weight does not cure negative body image
Negative body image is something that stays with you no matter how much you weigh, or what you look like. If you hate your body, you will always find something to hate about yourself. Once you lose the ten pounds you wanted, you’re going to find an area on your body that’s still not perfect. It’s a never ending cycle.
Exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it
Does this one seem a little backwards from popular belief? But also exactly what it needs to be? Maybe it’s just me, but working out has always been in conjunction with me wanting to change my body. I sure as hell never went to the gym thinking that I’m there because I love my body. But it’s the right way of thinking, isn’t it? Being physically healthy is a key ingredient to living a long and happy life. Often times though, people are punishing themselves at the gym. Not loving themselves.
There is no wrong way to have a body
You were born with an extremely unique set of genes that have been passed onto you from generations. You are your mother and your father. There are a gazillion (it’s a number) different combinations of bodies out there, and yours is exactly what it needs to be. A body is a body. It’s very simple. You weren’t made incorrectly, therefore there is no wrong way to have a body. Every part of your body is what makes you unique, not wrong or ugly.
Beauty is not what people say is beautiful. Beauty is what you already are.
What’s beautiful is who and what you are naturally. There is no one type of beauty. There is beauty in every person and living creature. You are beautiful because you are you.
Be whoever the hell you want to be. There is no wrong way to be yourself.
Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend
Imagine yourself in front of a mirror. What are you thinking? If you’re saying things to yourself that you wouldn’t and couldn’t utter to your best friend…take it back. You deserve the same respect you give your best friend.
You would tell your best friend that she’s beautiful including all her perceived flaws, and you wouldn’t be lying. Because she is beautiful, and so are you.
Life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself
To reiterate, there is so much more to life than your appearance. Don’t waste another minute hating yourself, and wishing you were someone else. Spend your life doing what you love. Be unapologetically you.
Think about all the energy you put into being at war with yourself. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to celebrate and love yourself no matter what? Think about the peace you would feel. Hold onto that and don’t let it go.
I’ll keep you accountable, if you hold me accountable.
What’s your story?
Share with me in the comments!